Masculine Man: Confident vs Cocky
Where Does Confidence Come Into Play?
Having said all this, is confidence still important? Absolutely, and I’ll give you a couple of examples of when having confidence is crucial:
- When your heart is pounding because you see someone gorgeous you want to talk to
- When your partner is talking to an attractive person
- When your partner tells you they need a break and your instinct is to break down and beg them to reconsider
In each of these moments, a very specific kind of confidence is required. It is the feeling thatwe are enough. As John Candy says to his aspiring Olympic bobsled team inCool Runnings: “A gold medal is a wonderful thing, but if you’re not enough without one, you’ll never be enough with one.”
So we come to the truth: All the confidence in the world will not be a substitute for the skill sets that get you what you want in life, and all the competence in the world can’t make you feel you deserve them.
Matthew Hussey is a New York Times-bestselling author, internationally recognized motivational speaker, and human dynamics specialist. To learn more, download his , check out his , and follow him on .
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